Know what you want.

Before having the conversation, and regardless of what happens during it, Sanders recommends you go in knowing what you want out of it-whether it’s proof, answers, saying your piece, breaking up, or going to couples’ therapy for a resolution. “Don’t confront without a plan, or the conversation is going to go on forever,” she adds. “Do what gives you closure. They made their choice, and you’re free to make yours too.”

If you had the conversation with your boyfriend and found out he wasn’t being unfaithful, this might be the opportunity to look inward. (more…)